Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it. Proverbs 22:6
How can a young man keep his way pure? By living according to your word. (Psalm 119:9) ...meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful. ...Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go. (Joshua 1:8-9)
Many traditions help our youth identify and celebrate the passage into a new stage in life; through First communion, Confirmation, Bar Mitzvah, and Quinceanera. All of these require a period of preparation and recognition, then the youth is READY to experience the rite of passage.
Training our children very carefully is a biblical concept society have seemed to have forgotten.
The absence of adult guidance through positive mentoring and quality time spent; has caused some of our youth to have created their own rite of passage by: stealing cars, shoplifting, and experimenting with sex, drugs, alcohol, weapons and violence.
of us know this is a very difficult world for our youth. Peer pressure,
sex and violence portrayed by the media, drug and alcohol abuse,
relationships, academics, and other issues faced on a daily basis
Solution: Become your child’s mentor or find someone to be a mentor to your child. A mentor is someone who has had successful life experiences and who is willing to share them. Someone who has time to listen and give thoughtful, caring advice and assistance. Someone who agrees to commit time and energy to developing a supportive on-going relationship with a young person.
Mentoring gives children and youth a positive way to deal with stresses, pressures, confusion, frustration, pain, temptations and the difficulties they often experience, which may cause them to respond by getting into trouble.
they are looking for is some attention and quality time with someone
who cares about their interest and future. They are crying out “what
Don’t waste the time spent criticizing and ridiculing the child. Find their positive attributes and help them to see the good in themselves.
Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4 )
Don’t make your success seem unattainable. Be transparent. Let them know your faults/mistakes as well as your accomplishments.
We will not conceal them from their children, But tell to the generation to come the praises of the LORD, And His strength and His wondrous works that He has done. (Psalm 78:4)
Don’t be a hypocrite. Be a good role model. Have integrity whether someone is watching or not.
For I have chosen him, so that he may command his children and his household after him to keep the way of the LORD by doing righteousness and justice, so that the LORD may bring upon Abraham what He has spoken about him. (Genesis 18:19)
Don’t do all of the talking. Listen: Leave room for them to speak. And allow them to talk without being too judgmental.
Don’t make them feel like what they are experiencing is not important to you.
Try to spend at least one day of week of one on one time. Even if it is only 20 minutes of washing the car together. Find the time for them to speak with you privately.